Ask the same three questions
Use these at an appropriate time agreed with the coach. Write down the answers instead of reopening the discussion after every session.
- “What is the main skill or behaviour you are working on now?”
- “What can we reinforce at home without giving technical coaching?”
- “What change or concern should prompt us to check in again?”
Keep the roles clear
The coach owns technical and tactical instruction. The parent manages logistics, listens to the child and supports the agreed process.
If the child receives conflicting instructions, stop adding another opinion. Say: “Let’s write that question down and ask your coach.”
Raise concerns with observations
Use specific examples rather than conclusions: “For three weeks, my child has been reluctant before this session and quiet afterwards.”
Ask what the coach has observed, what can be adjusted and when to review. For health, mental-health or safeguarding concerns, contact the appropriate qualified person directly.
Put it into practice
What parents can do
- Arrange a suitable time instead of interrupting training.
- Use the same three questions each check-in.
- Reinforce routines and effort, not technique.
- Record agreed actions and a review point.
Choose the right next step
Who to contact—and what to say
- Coach: “When is a suitable time for a brief check-in?”
- Coach: “Our child is receiving different instructions. Which message should they follow?”
- Academy lead: “We have raised this concern and need clarity on the next step and responsible person.”
Evidence basis
Sources used for this guide
Last editorial update 25 July 2026
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